We all want to be sexy, but how exactly do you do that?
Does it means spending hours every day at the gym and eating nothing but salad, or is there more to it?
There are countless people with amazing bodies out there but have no sexiness over what it looks like in a bikini.
The human mind is a complex thing and knowing how to turn it on requires an understanding of all the aspects that form “sexy”.
Sexiness and overall attraction are about so much more than just how you look without your clothes.
It’s about seduction and tension; become a desire in another person and make someone long for you, deeply and deeply.
In this article, we will cover everything related to sex and attraction, from psychological to behavioral aspects, and how you can improve your sexuality, both long-term and immediately the next day.
What makes you sexy: 3 important elements of attraction?
Whether you’re trying to score your next date, or just want to feel better about yourself in general, you might be wondering – what makes a man sexy?
Sexiness or attraction is a complicated thing; you will never be attractive to all the people who meet you.
But there are some basic, objective qualities that can increase your sex appeal to a certain level in almost anyone.
While love and absolute attraction are certainly subjective emotions, there is superficial sexuality that you can initiate in almost anyone, as long as you have the right stuff.
So what does attraction do? There are three vital elements or tree attractions and these are:
. Physical attraction
. Spiritual and behavioral attraction
. Psychological attraction
We go into each tree of attraction below and what you need to increase physical, mental and behavioral, and psychological attraction for those around you.
Method 1: Physical attraction
Short-term, casual and purely sexual relationships rely most on physical attraction when determining the sexual orientation of a potential spouse.
But that does not mean you should drop your physical appearance just because you are looking for something serious.
Physical attraction is always important in any relationship because there must always be some tension and intimacy.
Factors of physical attraction:
- Your fitness
Taking care of your body is an essential part of being physically attractive. People are not only attracted to those who look good and feel good, but also to those who value themselves enough to take care of their physical appearance.
. Exercise regularly
. Eat healthy meals
. Understand what is best for your body
- Your fashion sense
Too many people wrinkle at the thought of improving their sense of fashion, especially men. But a sense of fashion does not mean turning the whole closet upside down.
It just means knowing what looks good to you and taking good care of your appearance to look your best.
No one wants to go on a date with a guy who thinks that graphic shirts and cargo suits are appropriate every day of the week, because it shows that you care about your values, which reflects everyone who is with you.
. Mix your clothes
. Ask others for help – friends and family who have more style, if you need style help
. Find out your best look and win it
- Your personal grooming
Grooming is healthy, fast, and works wonders for your appearance but not everyone seems to do it. There are little things that add up to make a person physically sexy and attractive.
Is your hair fine? Are your nails trimmed? Are your clothes clean? Is your body hair maintained?
We do not all have the body of the catwalk model, but that does not mean that we cannot all try our best. Just trying is enough to make everyone just that much sexier.
. Hold, maintain, maintain – groom yourself once the first date but never again is not great
. Do it for yourself, not for anyone else – beauty is about respecting yourself, not impressing anyone else
. Ask your friends for a different opinion; what needs to be done to improve your personal grooming
Method 2: Spiritual and behavioral attraction
In general, it’s about proving that there’s more to you than meets the eye.
If you have a unique hobby or hobbies, it can separate you and make people see you in a light they otherwise would not have.
And of course, your behavior; how you feel when you are alone and when you are with other people.
Individuals are always looking for a potential mate they can admire and what is more admirable than someone who has full control over themselves?
Aspects of mental and behavioral attraction:
- Your trust
Trust is everything. The way you perceive yourself and the world around you starts in your mind and the confidence you have determines how you behave, behave and even think. The way you walk, how you fit in with people’s perspectives, how you talk and what you talk about;
It can be easy to confuse confidence with loudness, quantity, or arrogance. But confidence is none of these things.
Sexy self-confidence is the self-confidence in yourself to be who you are and not try too hard to be something else. It also means knowing when to say you are wrong and how to do it.
Practice makes perfect. Confidence is not something we are all born with, but it is always something you can train. Teach yourself to embrace self-confidence every day
Be kind to yourself. While it’s okay, to be honest with yourself and point out your own flaws, self-confidence means having the confidence to be good enough to yourself until you can work through these flaws.
Be cool. Do not be afraid to go a little overboard in self-confidence. Joking and daring a little and showing people that you are not someone who holds you back
- How you treat those you are attracted to
For a woman, it means being sexy to flirt endlessly with each man and her dog.
What this means is that you know the key elements of emotional ignition that actually ignite men. You can push his buttons with the words and phrases you use with him, even if those words and phrases on the surface have nothing to do with being sexy.
I recently came across a new concept in relationship psychology that brilliantly explains what men really want from a woman.
It is called the hero instinct. Watch a great free video about the idea here.
And the main requirement is that people simply want to be your hero. They will step up to the plate for you, protect you and earn you your love and affection instead.
I know that sounds a little silly. Nowadays, women do not need someone to save them. They do not need a “hero” in their lives.
And I could not agree more.
But here the irony is the truth. Men still need to be heroes. Because it’s built into their DNA to look for relationships that make them feel like a provider.
He wants to see himself as someone you really want and need to have around you. Not just accessories, “best friends” or “criminals”.
What this means is that in order to be truly effortlessly sexy in your husband’s eyes, you must turn on the hero check in him. You have to let him step up for you.
Doing so will trigger something deep in him. Something he desperately needs. Something he needs more than love and even more than sex.
If you want to learn more about heroism and how you can get it started with your husband, check out this great free video here.
- Your intelligence
Your mind is a precious thing and improving your mental capacity and spiritual sharpness is a trait that many find sexy.
The days of people looking down on bookworms are over (and if they are not, do you really want to be with someone who does not feel intelligent?); these days it’s all about putting yourself out there as the perfect, whole package.
Show people that you have hobbies, that you enjoy learning new things.
Explore parts of the world that have nothing to do with sex or romance or dating and it will show your potential partner that you are someone who is much deeper than they realize.
Intelligence is accompanied by a general passion, and showing this passion to the world is always sexy.
. Find your true interests. This is not about having 150 IQs; it’s about having unique interests that deepen your personality and chat points
. Put in the time. Improve yourself as an individual overall by putting in the time and energy to improve your hobbies and skills
. Be curious. Sex means excitement and excitement means having a partner who is always curious about new and unusual things. You do not want to be old, lame, and boring for your first white hair
- Your social behavior
A blend of intelligence and personality, your social behavior is one of the defining factors that make up your sex drive and overall appeal.
People are always on the lookout for partners they can imagine standing next to. We want people who have social charm and ingenuity to sail through life without much fuss.
We want partners we can admire who will encourage us to become better versions of ourselves and there is no better way to show it than by showing how much other people like you and want to be with you.
. Smile and meet people’s eyes. Do not show others that you are afraid of them; show them that you are a part of them
. Dance with the conversation. You must have the courage to roll with the conversation and the humility to pull back when needed
. Be kind and respectful. No matter who you are dealing with, everyone can admire kindness and respect. No one wants to be with a person who does not appreciate basic principles
Method 3: Psychological attraction
Speed is something we associate with music or sports, so what does it mean in terms of sex?
When we talk for a while, we mean the speed and speed that you reveal to your potential mate or date.
Remember that dating and creating an aura of attraction is all about playing the game and one part of that game is to make them want more.
You do not want to tell your whole life story on the first date or show them all the flaws and unattractive qualities that you hope to apply with your honesty.
It’s okay, to be honest, but try to slow it down a bit. Let them work from you, little by little, so they can taste you slowly like fine wine, not a shot of vodka to throwback down through the hatch.
. Ask for them at every opportunity and give them time to share instead of seizing every minute
. Do not be too intense. Excessive interest is only sweet in dogs, but in humans, it can sometimes be a delay
. Take it easy. Just because you had a great date does not mean you should plan your wedding. You want them to miss you and desire you as much as you desire them
- Your value
At the end of the day, your puberty is about the perceived value that other people see in you, as a combination of all your qualities and how you present those qualities.
Value means self-esteem and self-esteem means dignity – dignity, self-esteem, and personal value to take care of oneself, continue to grow as a person, and have a positive impact on those around you.
. Likely Show your potential mate that you are a likable person and that you have the social grace to be a positive part of the world around you
. Think about yourself. You value your limited time on this earth more than anything and understand the importance of caring for yourself, physically, mentally, and psychologically
. Stability Financial stability, mental stability, physical stability; There is nothing more appealing than someone who can be your rock and help you push yourself higher than ever.
Four comprehensive ways to look more attractive
- Stay on your path
One stupid way to be attractive is to try to attract those around the same “department” as you.
The study found 60 heterosexual male and 60 heterosexual female users and their behavior on an online dating site.
The researchers found that individuals who sought people who were around the same attraction as those (who were rated by independent audiences) found more success than those who sought very attractive people.
It’s not really a complicated science: if you set yourself up against very attractive people, you have other very attractive individuals competing for their attention.
Being “in your lane” eliminates unfair competition and gives you a chance to fight against other possibilities.
- Beware of your beard
“The easiest way through a girl’s heart is through a guy’s beard” might sound like an unsteady line, but research suggests that there is a correlation between a guy’s beard length and his attractiveness.
351 heterosexual women were asked to rate 177 heterosexual men with different beard lengths: clean-shaven stubble, medium streak, and full beard.
Women considered men with medium-sized symbols to be the most attractive.
Researchers suggest that because facial hair is a symbol of maturity and masculinity, as well as a symbol of aggression, the balance between clean-shaven and full-bearded is more attractive to women.
- Own a pet
Have you ever considered people with pets attractive? It turns out that you are not alone.
A study found that men who had pets, even those described as potential cheaters and abusers, tended to rank higher than other kids.
Even compared to responsible models with dogs, the bad boys did better with their own pets than the competition.
Researchers suggest that owning a pet indicates a long-term responsibility and ability, regardless of the individual’s nature.
- Get a signature scent
At this point, we already know that self-confidence is key. As it turns out, there is a way to hack it too.
A study involving male and female undergraduates found that people with fragrant deodorants felt more confident and attractive than people who did not.
What is even more interesting is that when another group was asked to rate these individuals, people who wore the deodorant (as opposed to those who wore something odorless) were rated more attractive, even if participants did not smell them.
It turns out that spraying a little of Cologne can make you better with yourself, which can encourage you to show more comfortable and attractive behavior.
Women vs. men: What do we find attractive?
- Eye contact
Eye contact is the easiest way to build trust. When you look at someone, you are able to create a closer connection between the two of you.
The best part is, anyone can pull this off and come out much more attractive.
Again, self-confidence is the key to everything and it is definitely a plus to look at the phone every time you open your mouth.
- Let them guess
While it’s good to let them in enough to know about your personality, you should deliberately omit a few details in order for them to find out. It is the conversational equivalent of “come here”.
Making people guess is more than just a mystery. As soon as your date caught sight of you, they probably already have an impact on which you could be.
Do not be transparent and reveal everything about yourself on the first date. Save the details for next time; this should make getting to know you even more exciting.
- be energetic
In addition to eye contact, there are other indications of body language that you might adopt for sex.
Instead of sitting in your chair and staring at your date all night, use gestures, facial expressions, and different tones to take advantage of yourself.
Whether you’re just having a drink or telling a story, it’s always a good idea to be energetic and open when communicating with your date.
Smile with your eyes. Touch them on the shoulder (if they are okay with that). Use your hands to make a point. Having a powerful presence makes you look authentic, more comfortable, and therefore memorable.
- Engage in your hobbies
Discussing your hobbies, no matter how vague they may be, is always a much better option than being a conversationalist.
Looking good before the date is just the tip of the iceberg; what really matters is to show up with a fun personality.
Talking about your hobbies is a stupid way to have fun because it: a) gives you a lot to talk about; b) makes you look passionate and knowledgeable about something; c) allows you to relax on the date by talking about something within your comfort zone.
- Get ready
In the age of social media, it is impossible to be uninformed.
Please review at least your date before you arrive. Instead of trying to come up with smart things on the spot, you can prepare in advance and get an insight into their personalities via Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter.
Yeah Al that sounds pretty crap to me, Looks like it could be that date. No matter what your intentions are – the fling, free relationship, long-term commitment – you have some kind of goal, and knowing about the other person can bring you closer to that goal.
Sexy but not sexual: What is the difference and how to be chic
For some people, the search for sexy means to “turn off”; But being sexy and being sexual is not one and the same thing. You can still be sexy, radiant with confidence, and come across as attractive without having to be sexual.
When someone asks us to be sexy, we immediately think of wearing the chest, showing the skin, or putting on a disgusting smile.
For the most part, it’s hard to imagine sexy. Unlike other virtues such as kindness or honesty, sex is difficult to represent by actions alone.
Not to mention that attraction is fluid, which means there is no way to look sexy from one person to another.
Without an easy, universal way to represent sex, it is easier to turn to visual cues that have represented sex.
As a result, when someone mentions sexy, we do not think about personality traits but physical characteristics that make someone sexy.
Separation of the sexual from the sexual is a key factor in a world that is becoming more sexual.
We must understand that sex is a state of being, a personality trait that stems from self-confidence and security.
Wanting to be sexy does not necessarily mean you want sexual attention – it just means you want to be a more idealistic version of yourself.
When you realize this, it’s easier to accept that sex is not malicious.
It will be easier to want to appear in a better light without worrying about ethical compromise.
At the end of the day, you don’t have to be Hollywood-perfect to be sexy; you just have to be the ideal version of yourself.